Tuesday, July 11, 2006

"I Want To Be Alone"

Today, I went to The Devil Wears Prada...by myself. This is not the first time I have written about my going to movies by myself, but I am compelled to comment further as I became annoyed at the pity that was shown to me when I shared this with a friend. When asked how I spent my afternoon, I shared my entertainment choice and this friend responded with an "ohhhh" so deep with lament that I couldn't tell if she felt sorry for me that I went to the movie alone or in my choice of movie.

I couldn't help myself. I replied with a quick, "Oh, no. You know I enjoy movies by myself." This is no lie to cover a lack of friends. Midweek matinees are my favorite kind of movie to see. Alone.

Enjoying this kind of isolation confuses people. Not all people. I know plenty of isolationists like myself. Just as I seek out detachment from others, there are people that must be with companions at every turn. There is no right or wrong way.

On the outside, I appear to be the type of person that would want to be with people all of the time. In my life, I have rarely been in a situation where I haven't been "with" someone. I grew up with a brother. I lived in the dorms in college. I lived in a sorority house. I married young so I have always had Tim. I have had friends to call up for a partner. My parents were always willing to hang out too. No matter the context, I have always sought being alone.

I remember seeking the privacy of my bedroom when I was younger. I was lucky enough not to share a bedroom. I had all of my favorite things in my room where I could just be. I was able to listen to the music that I wanted, read what I wanted, and be whatever I wanted in my room. As an adult, I realized that I could have this sort of anonymity and isolation in my everyday, mundane activities.


Amanda said...

There is a strange stigma with going to movies alone. I think it is a great idea... after all, you don't talk during the movie- so why not go alone? The only downfall is not being able to discuss it with someone afterwards...

How was the movie? I read the book... Did you?

Rhiannon said...

I like going to movies by myself every once in awhile too. I read this book and saw the movie and liked both. I read the book a few years ago though so I didn't really remember the details well enough to compare them.

Carm said...

I have to chuckle at the thought of someone doling out "pity".... I think that sort of attitude is a bit "pitiful," really. I guess I see going to a movie alone as the most normal thing in the world. I do it often... and just the way you do apparently... (summer matinees are the best.)

I once went to a film and then got to watch it in an empty theatre and it was a terrific experience for me. The best though, is that after leaving the film I strolled out into the hall and proceeded to see my sister leaving a different theatre in the multiplex as her movie ended. We'd both gone to see movies by ourselves at the same time without even knowing it.

firedancerdancin said...

I too enjoy myself a good movie outing by myself. I've gone as far as going to a friday night showing by myself too! (Go me and my own personal security--I dare you "we're on our first date" movie go-ers to even THINK about giving me the pity look thank you very much!)

It's liberating.

Completely liberating.

I think I'm gonna buy the book first and then see it on video though. I like reading the book before seeing the movie.